Values and beliefs are key to our personal development

Explore my values and beliefs

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If you were to ask yourself “what are my values and beliefs”? Can you easily list them? – If you have some difficulties listing your values then it may be interesting to read on.

Self aware people are consciously (or unconsciously) aware of their values, the things that are important to them, the essence of what they believe in. Values can come in all shapes and sizes – love, calmness, personal growth, making a difference, courage, honesty, confidence, friendship, win-win, determination, resourcefulness, adventure, caring – the list goes on (see my A-Z of values below)

Once your values are understood, they become the code that guides your decisions – your decisions become aligned with YOUR values (not what someone else thinks).

Values and beliefs

Do You Know What Your Personal Values Are? This free values and beliefs Work Book will take you through a process to elicit and document your values. By following a clear process and worked examples you will quickly be able to articulate what is important to you and why. A link to the work book will be immediately emailed to you. – A smart tool for people who are serious about personal growth.

The importance of values and beliefs

By discovering your core values you will gain a valuable understanding of just who you are and what makes you tick – I feel this is a very important aspect of personal growth. This can be further enhanced by asking yourself – “what new values would be useful to me at this time in my life – to enable me to get where I want to go?” By discovering your values you can begin to resolve the hidden conflicts in your life, remove stress and give yourself more direction.

And we all have beliefs too, things we believe we can do and things we believe we can’t. The fact is – what you believe, tends to happen – so it is far more productive to believe you can – and then just do it!

I believe that we all have core values; whether we know it or not. When these values and beliefs are compromised we tend to feel bad and when we are living our lives in-line with those values we tend to feel more comfortable and more in control. We all have secondary values too, values that can be appropriate for a certain amount of time, ones that we can bring to the fore as required as the events in our lives unfold. For example; you may want to increase your courage as you start a new job – or you may want to promote your value of “availability” when you have a young family.

Eliciting your values is not easy, but it is beneficial; remember values are ways of being that mean something important to you. When you know what your values are (and they are in order of importance) decision making becomes far easier – as you just follow your values.

In my experience it is very useful to become the type of person who moves towards solutions rather than away from problems, because often the quickest way to find a solution is just to charge right at it, rather than pussy-footing around getting all anxious and fretful. Once your unconscious mind can see your clear list of values and can recognise that achieving these will be good for you, somehow, it just takes you forward. Of course, there will be ups and downs, but at least you will have a map reminding you of what is important to you. Take your time with this – it may take a week or it might take a month, either way it is worth the effort. Self Awareness, this goes hand-in-hand with developing your beliefs and values – read more about Self awareness here.

 
You can read my personal values here

 

A story about beliefs and values

Socrates had gone for a walk outside the city walls of Athens. He was taking a rest, sitting on a mile post on the road about 5 miles from the city. As he rested he watched a traveller come along the road.

“Greetings, friend! Can you tell me, is this the road to Athens?” Socrates assured him it was. “Carry straight on ahead. It’s quite a big city. You can’t miss it.”

“Tell me,” said the traveller, “what are the people of Athens like?” “Well,” said Socrates, “tell me where you’re from, and what the people there are like, and I’ll tell you about the people of Athens.”

“I’m from Argos . And I am proud and happy to tell you that the people of Argos are the friendliest, happiest, most generous people you could ever wish to meet.”

“And I’m very happy to tell you, my friend,” said Socrates, “that the people of Athens are exactly the same.”

A few moments passed and another traveller approached. “Greetings, friend! Can you tell me, is this the road to Athens?” Socrates assured him it was. “Carry straight on ahead. It’s quite a big city. You can’t miss it.”

“Tell me,” said the traveller, “what are the people of Athens like?” “Well,” said Socrates, “tell me where you’re from, and what the people there are like, and I’ll tell you about the people of Athens.”

“I’m from Argos. And I am sad and disappointed to tell you that the people of Argos are the meanest, most miserable and least friendly people you could ever wish to meet.”

“And I’m very disappointed to tell you, my friend,” said Socrates, “that the people of Athens are exactly the same.”

Another story about beliefs..

The woman was walking past the elephants, and as she watched them, she became fascinated that these wondrously massive animals were being restrained by a relatively thin rope attached to a leg. She expected they would need to be secured by chains or wire ropes – and it was clear to her that these huge creatures could easily snap the rope and just walk off. Because she was now intrigued she questioned the animals trainer and asked why they made no attempt to escape. “Good question,” said the trainer, “when the elephants are small calf’s the same rope is used to secure them and at that young age it is strong enough to restrain them. As they mature and become larger they are conditioned to believe they can’t break the rope. They believe the rope is still stronger than they are, so they never even try to break free.”

The woman was astonished. The elephants could, at any time, break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were. You might say an invisible boundary created by the mind……. In a similar way, how many of us proceed through life clinging (unconsciously) onto a belief that we can’t do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

List of values and beliefs

Here is a value list that I have accumulated over the years from various sources, some are perhaps ways of being or attitudes, however, I feel they are just as important. Remember to explore what new values you might need if you are looking to change your life.

  • Abundance
  • Acceptance
  • Accessibility
  • Accomplishment
  • Accountability
  • Accuracy
  • Achievement
  • Acknowledgement
  • Activeness
  • Adaptability
  • Adoration
  • Adroitness
  • Adventure
  • Affection
  • Affluence
  • Aggressiveness
  • Agility
  • Alertness
  • Altruism
  • Ambition
  • Amusement
  • Anticipation
  • Appreciation
  • Approachability
  • Articulacy
  • Assertiveness
  • Assurance
  • Attentiveness
  • Attractiveness
  • Audacity
  • Authority
  • Availability
  • Awareness
  • Awe
  • Balance
  • Beauty
  • Being
  • Being the best
  • Belief
  • Belonging
  • Benevolence
  • Bliss
  • Boldness
  • Bravery
  • Brilliance
  • Buoyancy
  • Calmness
  • Camaraderie
  • Candour
  • Capability
  • Care
  • Carefulness
  • Celebrity
  • Certainty
  • Challenge
  • Charity
  • Charm
  • Chastity
  • Cheerfulness
  • Children
  • Clarity
  • Cleanliness
  • Clear-mindedness
  • Cleverness
  • Closeness
  • Comfort
  • Commitment
  • Compassion
  • Competitive
  • Completion
  • Composure
  • Concentration
  • Confidence
  • Conformity
  • Congruency
  • Connection
  • Consciousness
  • Consistency
  • Contentment
  • Continuity
  • Contribution
  • Control
  • Conviction
  • Conviviality
  • Coolness
  • Cooperation
  • Cordiality
  • Correctness
  • Courage
  • Courtesy
  • Craftiness
  • Creativity
  • Credibility
  • Cunning
  • Curiosity
  • Daring
  • Decisiveness
  • Decorum
  • Deference
  • Delight
  • Dependability
  • Depth
  • Desire
  • Determination
  • Devotion
  • Devoutness
  • Dexterity
  • Dignity
  • Diligence
  • Direction
  • Directness
  • Discipline
  • Discovery
  • Discretion
  • Diversity
  • Doing
  • Dominance
  • Dreaming
  • Drive
  • Duty
  • Dynamism
  • Eagerness
  • Economy
  • Ecstasy
  • Education
  • Effectiveness
  • Efficiency
  • Elation
  • Elegance
  • Empathy
  • Emotional
  • Encouragement
  • Endurance
  • Energy
  • Enjoyment
  • Entertainment
  • Enthusiasm
  • Excellence
  • Excitement
  • Exhilaration
  • Expectancy
  • Expediency
  • Experience
  • Expertise
  • Exploration
  • Expressiveness
  • Extravagance
  • Extroversion
  • Exuberance
  • Fairness
  • Faith
  • Fame
  • Fascination
  • Fashion
  • Fearlessness
  • Ferocity
  • Fidelity
  • Fierceness
  • Financial / independence
  • Firmness
  • Fitness
  • Flexibility
  • Fluency
  • Focus
  • Forgiving
  • Fortitude
  • Frankness
  • Freedom
  • Friendship
  • Frugality
  • Fun
  • Gallantry
  • Generosity
  • Gentility
  • Giving
  • Grace
  • Gratitude
  • Green Issues
  • Gregariousness
  • Growth
  • Guidance
  • Hands On
  • Happiness
  • Harmony
  • Health
  • Heart
  • Helpfulness
  • Heroism
  • Holiness
  • Honesty
  • Honour
  • Hopefulness
  • Hospitality
  • Humility
  • Humour
  • Hygiene
  • Imagination
  • Impact
  • Impartiality
  • Independence
  • Industry
  • Ingenuity
  • Inquisitiveness
  • Insightfulness
  • Inspiration
  • Integrity
  • Intelligence
  • Intensity
  • Intimacy
  • Intrepidness
  • Introversion
  • Intuition
  • Intuitiveness
  • Inventiveness
  • Investing
  • Joy
  • Judiciousness
  • Justice
  • Keenness
  • Kindness
  • Knowledge
  • Leadership
  • Learning
  • Liberation
  • Liberty
  • Listening
  • Liveliness
  • Logic
  • Love
  • Loving
  • Loyalty
  • Majesty
  • Making a difference
  • Mastery
  • Maturity
  • Meekness
  • Mellowness
  • Meticulousness
  • Mindfulness
  • Modesty
  • Motivation
  • Mysteriousness
  • Neatness
  • Nerve
  • Obedience
  • Oneness
  • Open-mindedness
  • Openness
  • Optimism
  • Order
  • Organization
  • Originality
  • Outlandishness
  • Outrageousness
  • Passion
  • Peace
  • Perceptiveness
  • Perfection
  • Perkiness
  • Perseverance
  • Persistence
  • Person Growth
  • Persuasiveness
  • Philanthropy
  • Playfulness
  • Pleasantness
  • Pleasure
  • Poise
  • Polish
  • Popularity
  • Potency
  • Power
  • Practicality
  • Pragmatism
  • Precision
  • Preparedness
  • Presence
  • Privacy
  • Proactively
  • Professionalism
  • Prosperity
  • Prudence
  • Punctuality
  • Purity
  • Realism
  • Reason
  • Reasonableness
  • Recognition
  • Recreation
  • Refinement
  • Reflection
  • Relaxation
  • Reliability
  • Religiousness
  • Resilience
  • Resolution
  • Resolve
  • Resourceful
  • Respect
  • Rest
  • Restraint
  • Reverence
  • Richness
  • Rigor
  • Sacredness
  • Sacrifice
  • Sagacity
  • Saintliness
  • Sanguinity
  • Satisfaction
  • Security
  • Self-control
  • Selflessness
  • Self-reliance
  • Sensitivity
  • Sensuality
  • Serenity
  • Service
  • Sexuality
  • Sharing
  • Shrewdness
  • Significance
  • Silence
  • Silliness
  • Simplicity
  • Sincerity
  • Skilfulness
  • Solidarity
  • Solitude
  • Soundness
  • Speed
  • Spirit
  • Spirituality
  • Spontaneity
  • Stability
  • Stealth
  • Stillness
  • Strength
  • Structure
  • Success
  • Support
  • Supremacy
  • Surprise
  • Sympathy
  • Synergy
  • Teamwork
  • Temperance
  • Thankfulness
  • Thoroughness
  • Thrift
  • Tidiness
  • Timeliness
  • Traditionalism
  • Tranquillity
  • Transcendence
  • Trust
  • Trustworthiness
  • Truth
  • Understanding
  • Unflappability
  • Uniqueness
  • Unity
  • Usefulness
  • Utility
  • Valour
  • Variety
  • Victory
  • Vigour
  • Virtue
  • Vision
  • Vitality
  • Vivacity
  • Warmth
  • Watchfulness
  • Wealth
  • Wilfulness
  • Willingness
  • Winning
  • Win / Win
  • Wisdom
  • Wittiness
  • Wonder
  • Worth
  • Youthfulness
  • Zeal

We really recommend that you take time to explore your values and beliefs, because they can trap or they can free us!