Freeing yourself from yourself

Generally, a shy person with social phobia or social anxiety is very uncomfortable being watched or feels uncomfortable or even humiliated while doing something in front of other people, it’s a kind of performance anxiety. The actual activity is often as mundane as asking for help or eating a meal, escalating up to the most common social phobia which is the fear of speaking in public.

Many people have a generalised form of social phobia or shyness, in which they have a fear of interpersonal contact so try to avoid such interactions. This can make it difficult for them to go to work or school or to socialise at all. Social phobias generally develop after puberty and, without treatment, can be lifelong.

Symptoms of social anxiety & shyness

Their social fear and social anxiety produces physical symptoms that vary from person to person, however, sweating, trembling, nausea, and difficulty talking are common, in extreme cases panic attacks are possible. If you suffer from these social anxieties, you may feel inwardly embarrassed and feel as though all eyes are focused on you (although others may not recognise your inner discomfort), they may see you as shy, aloof, detached and perhaps, in extreme cases, even rude – by the lack of social integration.

You may be uncomfortable being with people other than your family and may try to disassociate yourself from group situations. Often someone who has some form of social phobia will adjust their lives accordingly, so living remotely or not having to interact with other people seems more normal to them.

For some people it is possible to put a ‘mask’ on for a few hours to do something that must be done – it is not comfortable but it is possible, when necessary. Generally, people who are shy are no less competent or capable than anyone else, I’ve often found it to be quite the opposite.

Over time, a loop begins to form, by disassociating themselves from others they do lose some social skills like the ability to ‘chit-chat’ about anything (small talk) and this compounds their fears when placed back into a social situation again.

Social anxiety phobias are not life threatening and in many cases the person has, at a certain level, come to terms with it, thinking it is who they are. Sadly, often the main brunt of these phobias is carried by the family and friends of the sufferer, as their lives are, in many cases, governed by the reclusive nature of the individual.

Becoming more socially confident

Treating phobias with hypnosis and a range of therapies including NLP, EFT and Rapid Cognitive Therapy works well with these types of social fears.

These techniques add another dimension to you by implanting new thinking patterns as post-hypnotic suggestions. These suggestions can help you raise your self-image as you learn to see yourself as worthy, whole, complete and equal to any and all whom you might meet.

Hypnosis & NLP are effective treatment

Hypnosis and visualisation also allow you to “practice” new behaviours within the safety of a hypnotically induced sensation of relaxation and peacefulness. In this way you can gradually desensitise yourself before reinforcing these ideas in real life. When you are ready to release yourself from these emotional hand-cuffs and free the real you trapped inside – give me a call and we can talk about removing your social anxiety and letting you get on with life.